Context: I have a week left of classes and then finals. Two huge papers and a lab report due next week and then five finals to worry about. I’m not a drinker, really. I do go out but I’ve never been the twice in a weekend, every weekend sorta partier. It’s not my scene and I just can’t handle the lack of sleep and work load I have as a science student – lots of people can and do OK but I can’t.
So normally this would have been the last weekend I’d decide to go out, and get loaded. Too much to get done. But miraculously I had the night off (I work as an RA on campus) and the campus bar was having a school spirit themed event and I happened to have the perfect dress I was dying to wear. So I decided yesterday morning that I was going out and that was that.
It worked out better than okay. I had a great time, spending fun time with my boyfriend even in a group setting for most of the night relieved a lot of the tension we’ve been feeling due to school stress and even though we didn’t crash until about 4 we were up and at ’em by 11 and I had a great day.
Because I knew I was going out I worked my butt off through the day yesterday and got more than I would have done if I stayed in. Today was mostly a write off – I don’t get hungover just sleepy and lazy from being up late – but my mood is worth it.
Socialization has the power to keep me smiling for days, and a happy Hazel is a productive Hazel.
Just a little note to myself and to you, it’s okay to let loose once in a while and even if it seems counter productive it might just be the best thing you can do for yourself.
Little late jumping in to this link-up but I want to have something to build off for next month.
I don’t have February goals to review so i’ll just jump into what I really want to work on for next month. Which is April, holy holy where does time go?!?
- Stop eating desert with every cafeteria meal. Seriously. Stop that.
- Be more organized – like file folders and clothes not all over the floor organized.
- Stop wasting so much time. I want to start doing what I sit down to do instead of spending a half hour cruising social media before buckling down.
- Have fun. This should always be a goal – experiences are everything.
- Write more down, I always plan to take notes of everyday thoughts and memories but never stay committed.
- Forge relationships with the other students in my research lab.
- Do well on my Philosophy paper – this is an area of difficulty for me but I know if I take the time I can do well.
- Be more confident and forward on my trip with the Biology Society – I need to reach out more to make friends.
- Be nicer to my bf. The guy is so great and puts up with so much from me. I have to stop taking stress out on him and being snippy.
And those are my goals for March. Hope I can make a difference.
What are your goals this month?
Today’s prompt is all about pressure – and man can I feel it.
In just over a month I will be halfway finished my undergrad degree – time flies. Until then I’m – as per typical at the end of a semester – totally swamped. Does anyone else notice that Uni is just alternating weeks of either a ton of assignments/test piled into the same week (or day) and weeks that are so calm you don’t feel enough panic to get much done (a lot less of the latter unfortunately)?
This system screws me. I work well under pressure. I need that pressure of knowing it’s going to be a crazy week, or that the deadline is fast approaching in order to commit myself to getting stuff done. Knowing I have lots of time is my worst enemy. So when I have a week with no big deadlines or tests followed by one that’s jam packed you can bet I don’t really get much done till it’s pull-your-hair-out busy and I’m staying up late and being all zombie-ish trying to cram last minute.
To overcome this as much as I can I set fake due dates for myself – a week or two before in extreme cases. If I know for example that I have two midterms and a paper due on the same day (how sad is it that this has happened enough for me to use it as an example) I’ll write two due dates for the paper in my planner – the actual due date and one earlier, in a week that isn’t quite so jam packed. I do my darndest to stick to these fake dates and it seems to help, for me anyway.
How do you cope with weeks of nothing then weeks of serious stress? Do you work better under pressure?
Total inspiration credit goes to somethingwinnderful.com for this post – #13 on her “What I Would Tell my Freshman Self” post is what compelled me to elaborate on my feelings on this subject.
I have been with the same guy for a while now.. thinking about how long considering my age (20) tends to stress me out. In today’s society being in a serious relationship before having a life plan is uncommon and scary. I don’t know where I’ll end up after my undergrad, and since he’s two years older and finishing up his this may – I don’t know what it will be like to be here without him.
But so what – I love him and we are happy together. So we should be together, right?
Something I dislike about myself is my tendency to compare. I know some really young people in some really bad long term relationships – does that mean my long term relationship is a mistake too? – I don’t think.
Many University students sleep around a lot at this time in their lives, and they seem happy. So would I be happier if I wasn’t committed and could get more diverse sexual experience during my early 20’s? – still don’t think.
And the biggest question: Lots of those students that experimented with different relationships through school settle down with “the one” after. So they must know exactly who their perfect match is by “playing the field” right? – still don’t think.
What I do think might be similar to Katie Winn’s opinion in the previously mentioned post. Love isn’t reserved for one special person who can only be found by searching through multitudes of partners. Love is a verb. Love is something you do and give and uphold with someone who you care about and enjoy being with. I firmly believe that if a relationship makes your life even a smidgen better than you should do whatever it takes to maintain it. To me falling in love didn’t happen because my guy is the only guy for me. It happened gradually as we grew together and continues to happen as we help each other become who we want to be. As our relationship grew the care and effort that we put into being a valuable part of each others lives resulted in love, at least how I see it.
I don’t think my long-term exclusive relationship through my undergrad is holding me back from anything, I don’t think I’m having less fun, less sex or experiencing less because of my boyfriend. I don’t think long-term and young have to be a combination that screams unhealthy in my head just because of my exposure to relationships that are just that. I also don’t think that being in love right now means I can’t possibly find another “the one” later if that’s where my life leads.
For now, love is a verb and I am doing it with my boyfriend of almost 3 years, because it makes me happy and I love making him happy. That’s all that should matter.
Who’s favourite day of the week isn’t Friday, I’d like to know?
Okay so I’m sure lotsa people’s favourite day isn’t Friday.. But unless you have a terrible weekend job or are totally insane and like school days better than weekends, if you’re a student like me – Fridays rock.
So here at Sticky Notes and Coffee I’ve decided Friday will be for favourites.
This weeks favourite category is pens.
Maybe that’s lame, but I spend a lot of time writing, my pen is important!
Frixion clickers are my recent favourite
These things are great for note taking, love all the colours and the fact that I can write as fast as a pen allows and as neat as pencil, because they’re erasable!
I don’t write tests with them because since they erase with friction I’m nervous pages rubbing together with erase some answers but for note taking and filling in my planner, these babies are ideal!
I strongly recommend the .5 clickers, the .7’s bleed a bit and don’t erase as cleanly. Another slight issue is that they do run out of ink relatively quick – but maybe it’s just because I use them so much. If you’re looking for the perfect note taking pen these are it – I promise.
Ah. Beyond pumped.
Today I start volunteering in a neuropathology research lab at my university. The prof I’ll be working under is interested in electroregulation of stress hormones in electric fish. Does that put you to sleep, cause it makes me feel electrically charged. heh bad pun. Anyway – I applied for a job in this lab for the coming summer and while it’s rare that a second year student will get the job even just volunteering could be a major thing towards a career.
I plan to complete an honours degree which essentially means I’ll have to do a large research project in my fourth year which will preferably relate to neuroscience in some way as those are the masters/phd programs I intend to apply for. For that research project I need a thesis advisor in my area of interest (hello – this researcher!) making ties with her before the end of my second year (SECOND) is a huge step ahead.
Just another thing I love about my small university – never would have made this connection at a large institution.
Wish me luck – and put yourself out there. Talking to professors in your field of interest, even if you haven’t taken their classes can lead to humongous opportunities.